When you bite into a decadent piece of yummy-looking fudge, your taste buds send a message to your brain: sweet … delicious … CHOCOLATE!
You don’t doubt or question it because you’ve come to trust your five senses as pretty reliable. You believe what your eyes tell you you’re seeing. What your ears tell you you’re hearing. What your hands tell you you’re feeling.
But what about your sixth sense—your intuition?
Whether you feel it or not, we’re all born with intuition. Our ancestors depended upon it on it for survival. But somewhere along the way, our culture taught us to become increasingly reliant on “provable” facts and data. The problem is, they’re not always in alignment with your intuition.
Developing your intuition is like honing any other type of skill. It takes practice. It also takes an increased level of awareness … an openness that allows you to pick up on signs.
Intuition in Daily Life
Whether you’re looking to hone your intuition for your own use, or to advance along a professional psychic path, the fundamentals to develop intuition are the same. Start by working on your own intuition first. Use it in your daily life.
Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve ignored red flag after red flag?
My spouse and I live in an intuitive household. Years ago, we learned to trust our intuition when it came to trying new restaurants. After one particularly bad meal, I let on that I had “a bad feeling” about the place as soon as we walked in the door. Turns out, my spouse did too!
Had we honored those gut feelings, we would have left.
Instead, we stayed, ordered, ate … and regretted it. We then made an agreement that if either of us ever had a bad feeling about a restaurant, we would say so, and leave. This has saved us from many a bad meal!
When psychic intuition is used well, it can guide you to make decisions in many areas of your life. Hiring a new contractor and feel like something is off? Trust that. Interview others. House shopping and find one that feels like home? Trust that, too.
Intuition can also be used for the greater good of a community. Sadly, on more than one occasion, I’ve heard about people having a feeling that something is “off” at a neighbor’s house. But since everything looks as it should from the outside—the house is well-manicured, kids are well-behaved—no one says a word. Then, there’s the shocking news … abuse, a murder-suicide, drugs. The specific details vary, but the common theme is that had these neighbors relied on their collective intuition, there could have been some sort of intervention. A crisis could have been averted.
Why Do We Doubt Our Intuition?
Of course, we don’t want to go around accusing neighbors of doing awful things based solely on a gut feeling. But that sense shouldn’t be ignored or negated. Perhaps it’s a sign to tune in just a little more closely.
Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve ignored red flag after red flag? You accepted a job offer because it looked so good on paper—despite a gut feeling that it wasn’t the right fit. You bought a car you regret. You agreed to a bad business deal. Even as an experienced medium, I’ve overlooked red flags.
Why? We over-rationalize.
Your intuition is tuning into these signs; pay attention to them!
Let’s say you get a clear sign from a loved one on the Other Side. An old song comes on the radio—one that was full of meaning to you and your husband—but you dismiss it as chance. You catch a whiff of your grandma’s signature perfume—but you convince yourself you’re imagining it. Your intuition is tuning into these signs; pay attention to them!
Mind vs. Intuition: A Delicate Balancing Act
When you’re in a quandary where the facts seem to be on one side and your intuition is on the other, you can feel that tension—almost like an internal tug-of-war. Your analytical mind will be pulled—almost magnetically—to the facts and data. Your intuition may be more quiet, making it harder to recognize and easier to ignore.
Try this exercise the next time you’re struggling to make a decision. I call it the “yes/no” drill. Let’s work through it using the example of a job offer.
- Start by asking yourself: Is this job right for me … yes or no? Just as you were advised to do in school during a multiple-choice test, choose the first answer that comes to mind. No overthinking. Jot it down.
- If your intuition sees a red flag, your answer might be “no.” But the facts pull at you. The job title … the salary … the benefits … are all so appealing. “It looks so good on paper,” you tell yourself. The internal tug-of-war is still in play.
- Then go deeper. Ask yourself another question: Is it the company that I find so appealing … yes or no? Again, what’s your first answer? No overthinking.
- Take it even deeper still, with another question: Is it just something in me, wanting so badly to make this be the right fit … yes or no?
When you allow this process to work, your answer will be crystal clear. You might feel it in your gut. You might feel resistance. You might feel openness. That’s your intuition. Trust it.
Watch out, though, for a common mistake.
When people don’t like or trust the answer that they get, they will often keep asking that same question over and over—hoping for a different answer, of course! Do not ask the same question more than three times. If you do, then you are feeding the spin in your head. You’re overthinking it, and preventing your intuition from getting through.
Harness the Power of Your Intuition
Not everyone is born a medium, but everyone is born with intuition. Life is full of decisions, big and small. You want certainty before jumping into something that you regret. But even facts don’t always provide 100 percent certainty.
The best detectives, doctors and CEOs rely partly on their intuition when making critical decisions. Intuition is powerful. The key is in learning how to develop it, use it—and trust it.
This article was first published as “Your Intuition is Speaking: Are You Listening?” on www.amyutsman.com.